A story worth sharing

My fellow readers,

It has been quite a while from my last update in here. Things have moved so fast in my life that made me lay back and rethink the life I wanted with my love ones. While searching such inspiration, I come across this story and love to share to my fellow readers. I hope it will inspire your life in loving your ownself and to others as the way it have inspired me that leads the change in my preception towards kindness and love towards others..enjoy reading.

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One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.

He passed the first interview; the director did the last interview, made the last decision.
The director discovered from the CV, that the youth's academic result is excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never has a year he did not score.

The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarship in school?" and the youth answered "none".

The director asked, “Is it your father pay for your school fees?" the youth answered, my father passed away when I was one year old, it is my mother who paid for my school fees.

The director asked, " Where did your mother worked?" the youth answered, my mother worked as cloth cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hand, the youth showed a pair of hand that is smooth and perfect to the director.

The director asked, “Did you ever help your mother washed the cloth before?" The youth answered, never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books, furthermore, my mother can wash cloths faster than me.

The director said, I had a request, when you go back today, go and help to clean your mother's hand, and then see me tomorrow morning.
The youth felt that its chance of landing the job is high, when he went back, he happily wanted to clean his mother's hand, his mother feel strange, happy but mixed with fear, and she showed her hand to the kid.

The youth cleaned his mother's hand slowly, his tear drop down as he did that. It is first time he found his mother's hand is so wrinkled, and there are so many bruises in her hand. Some bruises incite pains so strong that shiver her mother's body when cleaned with water.

This is the first time the youth realized and experienced that it is this pair of hand that washed the cloth everyday to earn him the school fees, the bruises in the mother's hand is the price that the mother paid for his graduation and academic excellence and probably his future.
After finishing the cleaning of his mother hand, the youth quietly cleaned all remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, mother and sons talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to the director's office

The director noticed the tear in the youth's eye, asked: “Can you tell you what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"

The youth answered, “I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes'
The director asked, “please tell me your feeling."

The youth said, Number 1, I knew what is appreciation, without my mother, there would not the successful me today. Number 2, I knew how to work together with my mother, then only I can realize how difficult and tough to get something done. Number 3, I knew the importance and value of family relationship.

The director said, " This is what I am asking, I want to recruit a person that can appreciate the help of other, a person that knew the suffering of others to get thing done, and a person that would not put money as his only goal in life to be my manager. You are hired.

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates, every employees worked diligently and in a team, the company's result improved tremendously.

A child who has been protected and habitually given whatever he did, he developed "entitlement mentality" and always put himself first. He is ignorance of his parent's effort. When he started work, he assumed every people must listen to him, and when he became a manager, he would never know how suffering his employee and always blame others.

For this kind of people, he can have good result, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement, he will grumble and full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parent, did we love the kid or destroy the kid?

You can let your kid lived in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experienced it. After a meal, let them washed their plate and bowl together with their brothers and sisters.

It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parent are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person.

The most important thing is your kids learn how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learn the ability to work with others to get thing done.

Between a Dog and a Donkey..who would you be...

There was once a washer man who had...

a donkey

and a dog. One night when the whole world was sleeping, a thief broke into the house, the washer man was fast asleep too but the donkey and the dog were awake.
The dog decided not to bark since the master did not take good care of him and wanted to teach him a lesson.

The donkey got worried and said to the dog that if he doesn't bark, the donkey will have to do something himself.

The dog did not change his mind and the donkey started braying loudly.

Hearing the donkey bray, the thief ran away, the master woke up and started beating the donkey for braying in the middle of the night for no reason.

Moral of the story “One must not engage in duties other than his own"

Now take a new look at the same story...

The washer man was a well educated man from a premier management institute.

He had the fundas of looking at the bigger picture and thinking out of the box. He was convinced that there must be some reason for the donkey to bray in the night..
He walked outside a little and did some fact finding, applied a bottom up approach, figured out from the ground realities that there was a thief who broke in and the donkey only wanted to alert him about it.
Looking at the donkey's extra initiative and going beyond the call of the duty, he rewarded him with lot of hay and other perks and became his favorite pet.

The dog's life didn't change much, except that now the donkey was more motivated in doing the dog's duties as well. In the annual appraisal the dog managed "ME" (Met Expectations) .

Soon the dog realized that the donkey is taking care of his duties and he can enjoy his life sleeping and lazing around.

The donkey was rated as "star performer". The donkey had to live up to his already high performance standards. Soon he was over burdened with work and always under pressure and

now is looking for a NEW JOB

Disclaimer: All characters in the story are not at all imaginary. Any resemblance to person living or dying of work is purely intentional and is corporate related.

Single Dad

Let the story below leads you the ways on what you have and this is…

A story worth sharing

There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my sleepy child.

With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention of just having a well-deserved sleep, all i heard and felt was broken porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the 'problem'... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess on the bedsheet and blanket!

Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short explanation:

"Dad, I was hungry and there wasn't anymore leftover rice. But you were not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around, hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me. However, I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under the blanket to keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you 'cos I was playing with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."


At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I didn't want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried with the shower head on to mask my cries. After that episode, I went towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy.

A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.

However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time, his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain. But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say, 'I am sorry, Dad'. But after much probing, I realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by his school and the invite is for every student's mummy. And that was the reason for his absence as he has no mummy.....

Few days after the caning, my son came home to tell me, the kindergarten has recently taught him how to read and write. Since then, he has kept to himself and stayed in his room to practice his writing, which I am sure, would make my wife proud, if she was still around. 'cos he makes me proud too!

Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It was raining seasons. Every time the raining seasons came, frantic shoppers will try to get some shelters at any available stores....but alas, my son got into another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day's work, the post office called. Due to the peak season, the postmaster was also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son has attempted to post several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise never to hit my son again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that this child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he apologized, ' I'm sorry, Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the year.

His answer, amidst his sobbing, was: The letters were for Mummy.

My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask him: " But why did u post so many letters, at one time?" My son's reply was: " I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to the postbox, I could reach it and I sent it all at once..."


After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing what to do, what to say....

I told my son, " Son, mummy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach mummy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldn’t help opening the letter before they turn to ash.

And one of the letters broke my heart....

Dear Mummy,

I miss you so much! Today, there was a 'Talent Show' in school, and the school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was furious, and he couldn’t help it but scolded and hit me, but I did not tell him the real reason. Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing you and whenever he think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room. I think we both miss you very very much. Too much for our own good I think. But Mummy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear in my dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your dreams. But mummy, why haven’t you appear?


After reading the letter, I can’t stop sobbing. 'cos I can never replace the irreplaceable gap left behind....

For the married men:

Drink less, smoke less, cos nothing can replace your good health, not even business nor clients.

Try thinking this way; are you able to work till your clients are totally dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this society, no one is indispensable.

Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little precious and your loved ones.


For those singles out there:

Beauty lies in loving yourself first.
With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other things around you. You will be able to work better and happier. Don't let your health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing matters more than your well being.

(Not my original story. Story taken from an email circulated)

Jika anda bertanya...

KITA BERTANYA : KENAPA AKU DIUJI?

QURAN MENJAWAB
"Apakah manusia itu mengira bahawa mereka dibiarkan saja mengatakan; "Kami
telah beriman," ("I am full of faith to Allah") sedangkan mereka tidak
diuji? Dan sesungguhnya Kami telah menguji org2 yg sebelum mereka, maka
sesungguhnya Allah mengetahui org2 yg benar dan, sesungguhnya Dia
mengetahui org2 yg dusta."
-Surah Al-Ankabut ayat 2-3

KITA BERTANYA : KENAPA AKU TAK DAPAT APA YG AKU IDAM-IDAMKAN?

QURAN MENJAWAB
"Boleh jadi kamu membenci sesuatu padahal ia amat baik bagimu, dan boleh
jadi pula kamu menyukai sesuatu, padahal ia amat buruk bagimu, Allah
mengetahui sedang kamu tidak mengetahui."
- Surah Al-Baqarah ayat 216





KITA BERTANYA : KENAPA UJIAN SEBERAT INI?

QURAN MENJAWAB
"Allah tidak membebani seseorang itu melainkan sesuai dengan
kesanggupannya."
- Surah Al-Baqarah ayat 286





KITA BERTANYA : KENAPA RASA FRUST?

QURAN MENJAWAB
"Jgnlah kamu bersikap lemah, dan jgnlah pula kamu bersedih hati, padahal
kamulah org2 yg paling tinggi darjatnya, jika kamu org2 yg beriman."
- Surah Al-Imran ayat 139





KITA BERTANYA : BAGAIMANA HARUS AKU MENGHADAPINYA?

QURAN MENJAWAB
"Wahai orang-orang yang beriman! Bersabarlah kamu (menghadapi segala
kesukaran dalam mengerjakan perkara-perkara yang berkebajikan), dan
kuatkanlah kesabaran kamu lebih daripada kesabaran musuh, di medan
perjuangan), dan bersedialah (dengan kekuatan pertahanan di daerah-daerah
sempadan) serta bertaqwalah (be fearfull of Allah The Almighty) kamu kepada
Allah supaya, kamu berjaya (mencapai kemenangan)."





KITA BERTANYA : BAGAIMANA HARUS AKU MENGHADAPINYA?

QURAN MENJAWAB
"Dan mintalah pertolongan (kepada Allah) dengan jalan sabar dan mengerjakan
sembahyang; dan sesungguhnya sembahyang itu amatlah berat kecuali kepada
orang-orang yang khusyuk"
- Surah Al-Baqarah ayat 45




KITA BERTANYA : APA YANG AKU DAPAT DRPD SEMUA INI?

QURAN MENJAWAB
"Sesungguhnya Allah telah membeli dari org2 mu'min, diri, harta mereka
dengan memberikan syurga utk mereka... ?
- Surah At-Taubah ayat 111





KITA BERTANYA : KEPADA SIAPA AKU BERHARAP?

QURAN MENJAWAB
"Cukuplah Allah bagiku, tidak ada Tuhan selain dari Nya. Hanya kepadaNya
aku bertawakkal."
- Surah At-Taubah ayat 129




KITA BERKATA : AKU TAK DAPAT TAHAN!!!

QURAN MENJAWAB
"... ..dan jgnlah kamu berputus asa dr rahmat Allah. Sesungguhnya tiada
berputus asa dr rahmat Allah melainkan kaum yg kafir."
- Surah Yusuf ayat 12



Terasa amat kerdil apabila membaca sendiri warkah ini...segala alasan dalam lintasan hati dalam menempuh kehidupan telah terjawab dan pendoman hidup diberikan oleh Allah SWT...Namum Ohalf masih lagi gagal dalam kehidupan...

Ya Allah sekiranya aku gagal dalam kehidupan fana ini...bimbinglah hatiku agar kembali dekat dan sayang pada mu...

Ramadhan Al-Mubarak

Salam Ramadhan Al-Mubarak buat semua umat Islam dan

Selamat menjalankan Ibadah Puasa.

Alhamdulilah,

kita bertemu kembali Ramadhan tahun ini dan

semoga Ramadhan tahun ini, kita benar2 menhayati keindahannya dengan memuji kebesaran Allah SWT memohon kemaafan dunia dan

akhirat buat diri, orang tersayang serta umat Islam sekelian.

Enjoy what you are doing

Enjoy what you are doing.

If you’re not enjoying yourself, then ask yourself what are you doing?

Speak up and show your affectionate in what you do, why hide them? Some people out there are skeptical or some extend frightened to say out their enjoyment simply because of shy or afraid of being label as a gig.

In work, there is no shame in saying you enjoy your work. There seems to be some kudos in being miserable at work, in feeling down about your situation. This is compounded when office pecking where people try to outdo each other in moaning about how they hate their work. Should you be in their shoes when you in the opposite spirits?

Once you acknowledge that work is fun, lift up the spirit, you will find your steps lighten, your stress level decrease and your whole demeanors lightens.

Same goes to your love relationship with your love ones…cuddle them with love and make them feel appreciated that they are in love with the right person. The degree of love can depreciate in time if left unnoticed or if it’s just a routine way of “doing things”. You do not have to be a sex therapist but experiences can guide you to be aware of signs from your partner :o)

Put a smile to your words and the world will smile at you unconditionally

Antara Cinta, Jujur dan Kepalsuan

Dalam Ohalf mendalami kehidupan berkasih sayang, Ohalf terfikir sejenak pengalaman lama.

Cinta, satu perasaan kasih sayang yang merangkumi jiwa naluri seseorang, Cinta bukan semata mata hanya tertahluk sesama mahluk malahan hakikat cinta agung pada Maha Pencinta itulah kesudahan sebenarnya walaupun cinta sedemikian, Ohalf sebagai hamba sering leka dan lupa.

Jujur, adalah hakikat sebenar hati atas satu perbuatan atau perasaan seseorang…sering terdengar ungkapan “jujurlah pada diri sendiri” namum bagi Ohalf ungkapan sedemikian ada buruknya. Maksud Ohalf apabila dikatakan sedemikian adakah untuk menerima kelemahan pada diri ini tampa ingin berubah iaitu hanya dengan jujur pada diri sendiri…maksud Ohalf mungkin terlaluan apabila seseorang mempunyai naluri berbeza sering menjelaskan unggapan sedemikian untuk menyedarkan hakikat diri, namum jujur pada diri sendiri bukan untuk menerima kelemahan diri tetapi lebih pada jujur kerana ada mempunyai kekuatan yang dianugerahkan untuk berubah.

Kepalsuan, adalah perbuatan mengaburi daripada hakikat sebenar…mungkin kejayaan ini seketika dalam melayari kepalsuan untuk kehidupan sebenarnya yang pasti memakan diri sendiri. Ohalf sendiri akui lemah dalam hal ini kerana mengamalkan kepalsuan dalam hidup.

Antara antara jujur dan kepalsuan wujud berbeza walapun dalam kehidupan ianya sering berjalan seiringan.

Dimana dan bagaimana luahan rasa Cinta, Jujur dan Kepalsuan pada seseorang hanya tertakluk pada kehidupan itu sendiri, adakala kita berperasaan Cinta dan Jujur dalan hati namum wujud Kepalsuan pada diri dalam mencerminkan kebenaran dalam menerima hakikat…fikirkan dan renungkan kerana Ohalf hanya mampu mencoretkan dan kelemahan ini ada pada diri Ohalf dan yang Baik dan yang Benar hanya dari Allah SWT.

Jangan Mencari Terlalu Sempurna

Dalam Ohalf ingin mengenali seseorang...dia berpesan pada Ohalf, dimana Ohalf amat hargai pesanannya. Ingin Ohalf kongsikan bersama disini buat renungan sendiri dan sesiapa yang sudi.

Jika kamu memancing ikan……
Setelah ikan itu terlekat di mata kail……
Hendaklah kamu mengambil ikan itu……
Janganlah sesekali kamu LEPASKAN ia semula kedalam air begitu sahaja…….
Kerana ia akan SAKIT oleh kerana bisanya……
Ketajaman mata kail kamu & mungkin ia akan MENDERITA selagi ia masih hidup……

Begitulah juga……

Setelah kamu memberi banyak PENGHARAPAN kepada seseorang ……
Setelah ia mulai MENYAYANGI kamu……
Hendaklah kamu MENJAGA hatinya……
Janganlah sesekali kamu terus MENINGGALKANNYA begitu saja……
Kerana dia akan TERLUKA oleh kenangan bersamamu……
dan mungkin TIDAK dapat MELUPAKAN segalanya selagi dia masih mengingati kamu……

Jika kamu MENADAH air biarlah berpada……
Jangan terlalu berharap pada takungannya dan menganggap ia begitu teguh……
Cukuplah sekadar untuk KEPERLUANMU sahaja……
Kerana apabila ia mulai RETAK ….tidak sukar untuk kamu menampal dan memperbaikinya semula……
Dan bukannya terus dibuang begitu sahaja……


Begitulah juga……


Jika kamu sedang memiliki seseorang…. TERIMALAH dia seadanya……
Janganlah kamu terlalu mengaguminya dan mengganggapkan dia begitu istimewa……
Anggaplah dia manusia biasa……


Kerana apabila dia melakukan KESILAPAN …. tidaklah sukar untuk kamu MEMAAFKANNYA dan MEMBOLEHKAN hubungan kamu akan TERUS hingga ke akhir hayat
Dan bukannya MENGHUKUMNYA dan MENINGGALKAN dia begitu sahaja kerana kamu merasa terlalu kecewa dengan sikapnya
Lalu semuanya akan menjadi TERHENTI begitu sahaja……

Jika kamu MEMILIKI sepinggan nasi……
Yang kamu pasti baik untuk diri kamu……
Yang MENGENYANGKAN dan BERKHASIAT ……
Mengapa kamu berlengah lagi? Cuba mencari makanan yang lain……
Kerana terlalu ingin mengejar KELAZATAN ……
Kelak, nasi itu akan BASI sendiri dan kamu sudah tidak boleh menikmatinya lagi……
Kamu akan MENYESAL ……


Begitulah juga……


Jika kamu telah bertemu dengan seorang INSAN ……
Yang kamu pasti boleh membawa KEBAIKAN kepada dirimu……
MENYAYANGIMU …. MENGASIHIMU ….dan MENCINTAIMU ….
Mengapa kamu berlengah lagi?
Cuba MEMBANDINGKANNYA dengan yang lain……
Terlalu mengejar KESEMPURNAAN ……
Kelak, dia akan BERJAUH HATI dan kamu akan KEHILANGANNYA apabila dia menjadi milik orang lain……
Kamu juga yg akan MENYESAL dan tidak ada gunanya lagi……


Oleh itu janganlah kita terlalu mengejar KESEMPURNAAN kerana ia bukanlah faktor utama KEBAHAGIAAN yang sempurna, sedangkan jika kita boleh memaafkan KESILAPAN orang yang kita sayang dan akur dengan KELEMAHANNYA sebagai manusia biasa serta BERSYUKUR dengan apa yang kita sudah MILIKI …kita akan BAHAGIA, BAHAGIA dan terus BAHAGIA …itu lebih BERMAKNA !


"Begitu hidup ini tiada yang abadi yg patah Kan tumbuh yang hilang Kan berganti, namun yang berganti tidak mungkin sama seperti yang hilang


Epilog: Kata2 ini bermakna buat Ohalf, kerna kami saling menempuhi perjalanan hidup yang hampir sama..hanya waktu dan masa yang berbeza...Terima Kasih "L"

Semalam mendewasakan kita

"Semalam mendewasakan kita" tertarik Ohalf membaca kolumnis Paknil di Harian Metro.

Bukan disebabkan ianya mengisahkan kisah celebriti kehidupan beliau tapi lebih pada apa yang tersirat yang ingin disampaikan.

Setiap dari kita pasti melalui perjalanan kehidupan semalam yang mendewasakan siapa kita hari ini.

Pengalaman hidup Ohalf sendiri yang berkisah menjadikan siapa diri ini sekarang dan terus belajar untuk kehadapan lagi. Kegagalan yang ditempuh amat menyakitkan namum itulah mengajar erti semangat.

Dalam kita mengejar erti kedewasaan dalam kehidupan semalam, kita perlu teliti akan perjalanan hidupan yang telah dilalui untuk kita tempuh kehadapan, ianya terasa dan nampak biasa namum hakikat kehidupan tidaklah sedemikian buat semua, lantaran itu Ohalf kiaskan kehidupan kepada 3;

· Hubungan kita dengan Maha Pencipta yakni, Maha Suci Allah SWT
· Hubungan kita sesama insan
· Hubungan kita dengan alam

Biar pun ringkasan ulasan kali ini,tapi bagi Ohalf kiasan “ Semalam mendewasakan kita” ada pengajar buat Ohalf, insyallah

Poligami

Bolehkah dua hati menyayangi hati yang sama dan satu hati menyayangi dua hati yang berbeza.

Agak berat perbincanagn ini namum Ohalf merasa dilemma ini bukan perkara baru..dari segi hukum ianya dibenarkan sekiranya berkemampuan dan berlaku adil, yakni poligami. Sejauh mana perlaksanaannya dalam mentadbir poligami ini terpulang kepada pihak2 yang terlibat.

Bukan tidak pernah berlaku malahan ianya telah jadi sebahagian lumrah kehidupan berkeluarga. Bermadu dan berkongsi kasih mungkin bagi kaum hawa ianya satu yang amat pedih untuk ditelan walaupun terpaksa rela apabila keadaan memaksa.

Namum tidak kurang juga menanggap ianya merupakan satu pengorbanan bagi kaum hawa yang sanggup menerima untuk bermadu demi untuk kebahagian suami tercinta kerana zuriat maupun tidak mahu terjerumus kepada dosa.

Ada pihak yang berperanan sebagai perjuang hak wanita walaupun berhujah atas segi hukum tidak menyenangi betapa senangnya hak berpoligami ini diberikan pada kaum Adam khasnya. Mungkin laungan mereka ini ada benarnya kerana kes kes yang dibentangkan merujuk kepada kaum Adam yang tidak menjalankan poligami dalam aspek yang betul, yakni dalam erti kata hanya mengikut nafsu.

Adakala apabila timbul keadaan apabila hendak dimadukan…penyelesaian yang diambil mudah adalah perceraian…dengan merasa ianya jalan penyelesaian yang terbaik…dengan beranggapan tidak akan ada peryelesaian dan keadilan berlaku apabila berpoligami dalam sesebuah rumah tangga.

Bagi Ohalf, bukan untuk memihak bagi kaum Adam, namum kaum hawa yang sekarang ini berlumba lumba mencari kesaksamaan dalam kehidupan perlu bersedia dari segi mental, emosi dan kedudukan sekiranya ianya berlaku.

Ohalf rasakan ada bezanya antara berpoya kerana nafsu dan berkasih kerana cinta. Jangan kaum Adam lupa ada antara kita melonjak kerana nafsu walaupun sudah berkeluarga tapi tidak mahu bertanggungjawab untuk berpoligami…pernah kaum Adam dengar…kata kata ini…Aku nak seronok jer..kahwin aku tak nak….ataupun yang bujang Aku nak seronok jer tapi kalau nak kahwin aku nak cari yang baik2.

Kaum Adam jangan ambil mudah apabila ingin berpoligami malahan terlebih dahulu jangan ambil mudah apabila mula bermain kasih luar yakni mempunyai hubungan lain kerana itu adalah titik permulaan bagi perceraian ataupun berpoligami. Hukum membenarkan..namum tanggungjawab diakhirat pasti lebih berat kerana Allah tetap berlaku adil dan keadilan bagi kaum hawa adalah pasti.

Apabila poligami berlaku…mungkin kaum adam dan hawa menerima tapi jangan lupa ada hati2 lain yang merasa yakni anak anak. Kita mungkin boleh menerima namum bagaimana penerimaan anak anak yang masih membesar melihat ini berlaku didalam kehidupan mereka. Ohalf tidak mahu mengulas lanjut kerana ianya mempunyai impak yang besar dalam kehidupan dan penelitian perlu dikaji oleh semua pihak terbabit. Biarlah hal ini Ohalf kupas dilain perbincangan, insyallah.

Ini merupakan luahan hati dan penelitian Ohalf yang pernah melalui detik sedemikian dalam usia begitu muda. Pengalaman memang benar mengajar namum apa penting adalah pengajaran yang diterima itulah natijah atau dalam erti kata lain sedikit sebanyak membentuk siapa diri ini.

Yang baik datangnya daripada Allah SWt dan yang salah adalah atas kelemahan pada diri Ohalf sendiri.

Key Productivity Indicator (Kpi)

Today, it’s 30th June 2010 and it’s time for half year review for most organizations. 6 months has gone and not realizing that we are already half a year older.

Most talk about nowadays is the Kpi performance, to know where you stand in terms of objectives and performance, whether align in meeting the strategic goals of your organization.

For those who have made a New Year resolution… now, it’s the time to do the same…whether it is achievable or realistic to achieve.

Some would say..This is just a management gimmick but towards the end it’s not what you achieved it’s more who you know aka “The Technical Know Who” principles. For those who are familiar with Performance Appraisal…the “Horn” and the “Halo” effect shall come to picture during this time.

On spiritual aspect…have we give the same effort towards worshiping The Al-Mighty Allah SWT and praise for all the blessing or we prefer to wait to the very last minutes…by saying there’s plenty of time to do so…this can wait? The Kpi will only be reveal upon Death…

Ohalf hanya menasihati diri sendiri yang sendiri sering leka dalam nafsu dan keseronokan.

I'm Sorry

It has been quite a while from my last updates in this blog…I know it is just a plain excuse of too much work …no time and so on…bla.. bla la…yeah..a lame excuses huh.

Ok..I’m sorry.

What makes me starts back was my dearest friend who actually inspires me for blogging and helps to create this blog for me is currently down with heart-ache due to un-reconcile relationship.

I just wants’ him to know that life sucks!!!

But that does not means we go wondering around blaming others with vengeance

Just take a deep breath and thank god for the life that he have given to you

There are more out there who you can reach out and spread your love and kindness

So what if you cannot have the happiness just like others do..Does that means you are a failure in life?

God creates Heaven and Hell for a reasons and that is what we need to find out…no matter what the belief or religious a person practices.

Be thoughtful and thankful..coz you are still standing here as compared to other who are in despaired

So my dear friends…

Get up and pull yourself together

Start first with a smile in your face and say to the world….”HEY I’m BACK IN ACTION”

My sad journey in Kuantan

I was in Gambang Water Park Pahang recently and I took the opportunity to visit Kuantan.

In the 80’s I was in Kuantan, Telok Sisek to be precise. Places such as Taman Gelora, Padang Lalang and Teluk Sisek bring back old memories to me when I strolled along these roads. There is no more Astect, no more the old wooden bridge (has been change to a better one- a concrete bridge) even the old wooden houses with tilts are no more on side but have been replaced by bungalows.

I was amaze with the development but at the same time felt sad and as if part of me with the memories gone missing. I remembered, if we, the campus boys missed the old “Bombay bus” to campus, we gladly walked with the morning breeze. We used to laugh along the road to campus…villages will sneak a peek with a smiling face at us due to our laughter to greet us good morning.

The shop houses formally known has Dato Bahaman hostel, where I used to stay is now known as IKIP International College Hostel. Even the old main campus in Taman Gelora is under IKIP. The Remaja’s hostel during my senior years has become campus for Uitm (at lease that’s still remains)

I sense that every part of my life journey has been erased one by one and it is not worth to continue. There is nothing to look forward even the memories has gone. The only one remain is the CUT that is so deep making life is not worth the breath.

It is short sad journey for me to be back in Kuantan. I felt the loneliness, the sadness that has been haunted in me. I wish I have the magical wishes to turn back time and I wish I have not encountered such journey in life and have everyone to blame except myself…my other half felt the hurt so much until I felt it is not worth to live anymore.

Epilog:
Maaf …sekiranya kehadiran sebentar di Kuantan membebankan… Ohalf tidak mahu menyusahkan kerna diri telah biasa bersendirian lantas itulah kehidupan Ohalf sebenarnya.

Judging a book by its cover

Do men and book are alike?...I think we might...a good book have a good presence and attractive.

Like a book we need to be attractive….there is no doubt about it and majority knows that handsome people get on better than those less fortunate. Handsome people have to work less hard to get on. But what makes someone attractive, you will be hard pressed to see what it is that they’ve got that makes them so good looking.

They have life presence, power and personality which bring out the best in them.

To be successful, we need also these things. We need to pay attention to grooming, cultivate a character smile, look good and cool all the time thus it will carry you and come across as friendly, warm and articulate which present as attractive and good looking.
Attractiveness is also about posture and position. You need to sit or stand straight up , do not slump or otherwise you will off an aura of gloom and depression, which makes you look less attractive and not good looking.
OK...I’m on into it…let’s get grooming…yeah yeah

Working Experience

Every day, a small Ant arrives at work very early and start work immediately. She produces a lot and she was happy.

The chief, a Lion was surprised to see that the ant was working without supervision, he thought if the ant can produce so much work without supervision, wouldn’t she produce even more if she has a supervisor.

So he recruited a Cockroach who had extensive experience as supervisor and who was famous for writing excellent reports.

The cockroach’s first decision was to set-up a clocking in attendance system. He also needs a secretary to help him write and type his report and…he recruited a Spider, who managed the archives and monitored all the phone calls.

The lion was delighted with the cockroach’s report and asked him to produce graphs to describe production rates and to analyze trends, so that he could use them for presentations at Board’s meetings...so the cockroach had to buy a new computer and a laser printer and…recruited a Fly to manage the IT Department.
The Ant, who had once been so productive and relaxed, hated this new plethora of paperwork and meetings which used up most of her time…!

The lion came to the conclusion that it was high time to nominate a person in charge of the department where the ant worked.
The position was given to the Cicada, whose first decision was to buy a carpet and an ergonomic chair for his office. The new person in charge the cicada also needs a computer and a personal assistant, who he brought from his previous department, to help him prepare a work and Budget Control Strategic Optimization Plan.


The department where the ant works is now a sad place, where nobody laughs anymore and everybody has become upset. It was that time the cicada, convinced the boss, the lion, of the absolute necessity to start a climatic study of the environment. Having reviewed the charges for running the ant’s department, the lion found out that the production was much less than before.

…So he recruited the Owl, a prestigious and renowned consultant to carry on an audit and suggest solution. The owl spend three months in the department and came up with an enormous report, in several volumes, that concluded: The Department is Overstaff.

Guest who the lion fire first?

The Ant, of course, because she showed lack of motivation and had a negative attitude. Note: The characters in this fable are fictitious; any resemblance to real people or facts within the corporation is pure coincidence.

My favorite train story.

One old man is sitting with his 25 years old son in a train. The train is about to leave the station. All passengers are settling down on their own seats. As the train is moving, the young man felt excited, joy and full of curiosity. He was sitting on the window side. He puts one hand out and let the feeling of the passing air. He shouted...” Papa, see all the trees are going behind”. The old man smiled and admired his son’s feeling. Beside the young man, there was a couple sitting and listening to all the conversation between father and son. They were little annoyed and felt awkward to see the attitude of a 25 years old man behaving like a little child.

Suddenly the young man again shouted, “Papa…papa, see the pond, the animals and the clouds are moving with the train. The couple watched the young man with annoying feelings. Now it is started to rain and some rain water touches the young man’s hand. He felt the joy and close his eyes and shouted again “Papa, it’s raining, the rain water is touching me…see papa.”

The couple could not help themselves and ask the old man, “Why don’t you visit the doctor and get your son treated” The old man said “Yes, we coming from the hospital, only today my son has got his eyes for the first time of his life”.

The above story touches me personally…why?

I have a son…a child with Aspergent Sydrome – an Autism. His passion is about train as well and behaves in the same manner of the young boy above. I love him very much and give him my undivided love and attention and I know others who have not encounter with such wonderful people would not able to understand the love and fulfilling of having such child.

Adam, papa loves you very much.

Ohalf

Biarlah...

Perjalanan hidup Ohalf banyak mengajar siapa diri ini sendiri, walaupun banyak lagi yang harus ditempuhi didalam mengisi ruang nafas kehidupan…manis dan pahit seharusnya itulah yang dirasai.

Pernah seketika ingin aku pohon pada Allah SWT agar tamatkan kehidupan ku dialam fana ini kerana aku rasa tak tertanggung atas dugaan yang menimpa…rasanya semua pasti gembira dan tiada siapa yang akan merasa kehilangan.

Setiap malam kekosongan jiwa…aku penuhi dengan kehinaan…begitulah lemahnya keimanan yang aku sangka aku perolehi…aku cuba dan aku kandas…aku cuba lagi dan aku kandas lagi…kandas dalam lembah kehinaan yang aku sendiri cari dan ingin kecapi.

Jiwa aku marah tapi pada siapa…kasih ku kosong minta dipenuhi..namum hanya degupan hati lara dan dinding yang sering ketawa melihat gelagat hina ku…dalam menikmati keseronokan.

Aku rasa biarlah aku sendiri…sendiri dalam gagal mencari…sendiri dalam kehinaan…dan sendiri dalam kealpaan…Namum dalam kehinaan ini aku tetap merayu..menyembah dan sujud pada mu Ya Allah kerana hanya pada mu Ya Allah…yang tahu sebenarnya rasa isi hati walaupun dalam senyum aku derita dan dalam pahit aku merasa.

Adalah tersurat di Luh Mahfuz yang aku dihina dalam kehidupan atas perbuatan aku sendiri…yang aku pohon dari mu Ya Allah adalah Kasih Sayang dari mu…yang sememangnya aku tidak layak menerima sebagai hamba…Amin

Lewat Semesta

I love this song...lets sing together.

Lewat Semesta

Satu kata bertulis cinta

Telah merasuki ku

Tak berwujud tak tersentuh hanya ku rasa

Reff:

Dan jika wujud nya menjelma

Pada sebentuk hati

Bukankah itu amanah dari yang kuasa

Menjaganya.. menjaganya..

Wahai insan yang di sana

Mungkin saja ini kau dengar

Melewati semesta ini

Aku sampaikan

Begitu ingin berbagi batin

Mendengarkan hasrat di jiwa

Oh Tuhan pertemukan aku

Sebelum hatinya beku

Back to Reff:

Lirik Lagu: Randy Pangalila

Joker's joke

1. When your boss says - "You have screwed up this module"
Smile - it means "the other modules were good"

2. When your boss says - "I am not going to let you go early today evening"
Smile - It means "you can come late tomorrow"

3. When your boss says - "Do the documentation"
Smile - it means "Relax dude, you've done enough of coding, time to give your brains a break"

4. When your boss says - "You do nothing but just surf the internet"
Smile - it means "Dude, now I know where all that knowledge comes from"

5. When your boss says - "Do you come to office to sleep?"
Smile - It means "hey buddy, why do you stress yourself? Have a good night's sleep and come to office whenever you wish!"

6 . When your boss says - "Stop staring at that girl you moron"
Smile - it means "My wife is better than her "

7. When your boss says - "Why does nothing work on your machine?"
Smile - it means "I am thinking I could rather give you my laptop"

8. When your boss says - "Would you stop talking on your mobile phone?"
Smile - it means "Use the office phone instead"

9. When your boss says - "Why do you keep smiling always?"
Smile - it means "I love the fact that You are spreading the good will"

10. When your boss says - "YOU ARE FIRED"
SLAP HIM IN HIS FACE AND SAY - "I RESIGN"

SERAM

Ohalf selalu terfikir dan mungkin ramai lagi terfikir kemanakah arah pemikiran kita dalam alaf baru ini. Dalam lonjakan paradigma minda kepada jalurlebar - Broadband sedang hebat dipromosikan, ada yang lain sama hebat seiringan.

Apa yang Ohalf maksudkan adalah cerita seram yang menggunakan ilmu hitam sebagai santapan mata dan jiwa seperti Santau, Susuk, Jangan Pandang Belakang dan banyak lagi di tayangkan di kaca TV yang promosikan. Boleh dikatakan hampir setiap malam Jumaat itulah santapan mata dan bukan sebaris surah Al-Quran yang dibaca malah sebaliknya.

Cerita sedemikian secara tidak lansung mempromosi dan mengajar mencari jalan mudah untuk mencapai hasrat dan tujuan. Bagi setengah orang berkata itu hanyalah satu jalan rekaan cerita tapi hakikatnya itulah perbuatan yang boleh ditiru oleh masyarakat khususnya orang melayu itu sendiri.

Pada mulanya, Ohalf hanya mendiamkan diri kerana memang malas hendak bicarakan namum hati kecil ini berkata kenapa tidak…luahkan apa yang tersirat.

Ada pihak berkata, kenapa tayangan dipanggung atau cerita seperti Supernatural , Nightmare in Elm Street, Final Destination yang mempunyai grene yang sama tidak dipertikaikan? Kenapa harus pada pembikin cerita seram melayu yang hendak ditempelak dan di kritik? Kan kita harus bangkit dan sedar dalam kemodenisasi yang filem melayu pun boleh membuat teknik cerita sedemikian, itu menunjukkan kemajuan industri drama dan filem negara boleh maju…disamping membantu secara tidak lansung kepada ekonomi…satu yang benar.

Kalau tidak pun..banyak adegan berahi atau stunt yang lebih kepada keganasan ditayangkan di TV maupun di panggung, kenapa filem melayu seram yang ingin Ohalf utarakan?

Cemuhan dan tindakbalas sedemikian yang diterima apabila Ohalf utarakan persoalan ini dan tidak kurangnya menyokong dan ada yang bersikap neutral.

Lontaran kata2 diterima membuat Ohalf berbicara…kita berpijak di dunia nyata yang sememangnya kita sendiri yang ingin melihat apa yang kita ingin lihat dan inginkan. Secara sedar kita tahu, ini hanya tontonan dan dari segi penilaian kita sendiri yang tentukan…Namum jika ini yang kita tonjolkan maka inilah yang kita akan terima pada masa kini dan pada natijah masa depan…Kita Fikirlah Sendiri.

Something about ME

My dear readers

Apart from a routine 9 – 5 job, my free time is blogging around…honestly I’m a VERY late starter even I enjoy reading conflicting articles in some blogger.com in the local scene which give opportunity to test my thinking gap…i.e the “Otherhalf” syndrome in me…After reading, surely I’ll go to the comments section and explore the thinking of others on the article written, this one in particular appeals to me… and I guess you reader may know who’s blog I’m talking about here.

By S..Tan on March 6, 2010 11:35 AM
Dear YAB Tun, salam mesra harap sihat. Kiriman saya dgn izin..............CARS – BEAUTY PAGEANT?
A car is about brand image; confidence and trust as it is a big ticket long term buy and concerns safety. To be accepted globally it must be successful locally. So long as the world feels Proton’s success in M’sia is due to protectionism it will not gain external acceptance. Unless M’sians subsidize the foreigners by letting them buy at cheaper rate than us. This is what happens now.
You can have the best looking car with great features, it will not sell on these alone. Car industry is not a beauty pageant. Proton will face China, India, Sweden, Czech, Russia (not world renowned brands also) whose cars have superior reputation to Proton. Proton faces a huge challenge; don’t saddle it with another stigma...protection from extinction. Proton pakai gear tongkat?
Compelling M’sians is different from convincing foreigners. Maybe you can tell them off, you don’t have to like the M’sian way of making cars?

Many or mostly initially, we have this skeptical syndrome of not trusting our own products…and for years this product of us being label intensely..Just to name a few…Jaguh Kampung, Kereta Tin Milo etc etc..bla bla bla so on and so forth.

Pardon me of saying...to some extend buying a car is racism and have a certain degree of patriotic in questions…ever wonder why??? And it also reflects the earning power of our multi racial country. Forget about the patriotic and racism part…that alone cannot be solve in a day of a century.

What in the world I am blabbing about…

Well it is because my experience with 2 colleagues of mine from Brazil & Saudi during my uni years abroad…we started to talk about cars and comparing the car we drove back home…and of coz I say that I drove a local car; Proton and with a sniffer look towards me they try to figure it out what car is that and say…you Malaysian manufacture your own car..Proudly I say…YES. That was more than 20 years ago..Some historic era.

Yearly latter, I have heard Proton participate some international automobile shows and each time when such news came to me…the above memory flashes back…and the recent one is no exceptions.

Credits to Chedet.com-GENEVA Motor Show and the commentor above…Cheers and Hat’s off…PROTON!

Antara Niat dan Perlakuan

Banyak perkara dimulakan dengan niat yang baik and diterima pakai tapi perlakuan serta perlaksanaanya yang bercanggah dengan hukum…itu yang membuat kehidupan ini menjadikan yang haram dihalalkan dan yang halal diharamkan…itu adalah pendapat Ohalf.

Dua artikal ini Ohalf terima dengan serentak…yang ketiga adalah nilaian Ohalf sendiri…tapi dimana haknya dan dimana benarnya… itu yang Ohalf ingin cupaskan.

Pertama : Didada ahkbar menyatakan pembelaan hujah yang dikemukan oleh Radovan Karadzic menyatakan peperangan yang beliau lakukan adalah adil dan suci. Niatnya hanya untuk mendapat hak kawasan bersama dan peperangan yang dilakukan ada benar ada haknya. Dunia semua tahu tentang kesengsaraan rakyat Bosnia atas tindakan Pihak Serb yang bermula dengan niat yang baik katanya dan menghalalkan peperangan sebagai perlaksanaannya. ..adakah itu benarnya…kita saksikan panaroma tribunal peperangan ini kemana sudahnya nanti.

Ohalf terfikir sejenak akan kesengsaraan terhadap pejuang Palastine dengan kekejaman Pihak Zionist…hampir sama trilogy dan niatnya serta perlaksananya…juga sejarah Pihak Hitler yang membuat pembunuhan beramai2 atas dasar yang hampir sama…tapi dulu dunia mengutuk kekejaman Hitler…adakah dunia kini mengikut landasan yang sama atau berpaling pada antara Niat dan Perlakuan...menghalalkan yang haram dan mengharamkan yang halal…renungkanlah.

Kedua: Alkisah, seorang personaliti yang berperwatakan pondan atas dasar semata2 hanya untuk hiburan dan menghiburkan. Soal terima bayaran dan rezeki tidak mahu Ohalf ulaskan..tapi dinyatakan ianya hanya bergantung kepada Niat dan Perlakuan…inilah dia dikatakan dunia hiburan…dunia yang dicipta oleh akal yang menghalalkan yang haram atas dasar Niat yang baik.

Ada aku kisah, apa orang kata…itulah lontaran kata bila kita sandarkan niat yang sendiri kita nyatakan hanya aku dan tuhan mengetahui niat dan perlakuan yang di lakukan…Ohalf terfikir sejenak…senangnya menghalalkan perlakuan yang haram atas dasar niat yang kita lafazkan…renungkanlah.

Ketiga: Produk yang sama beralkohol lebih murah dengan produk yang sama tampa alcohol. Mengikut logic akal, benda yang ditambah pasti akan bertambah nilainya dan lebih berharga dengan benda yang dikurangkan…

Ohalf utarakan persoalan ini kepada penjual..ianya hanya mampu tersenyum membisu. Mungkin tugasannya untuk mendapat sales/ jualan bukan untuk menerangkan…itulah dia niat untuk menghasilkan yang halal ada baiknya tapi perlaksanaanya mengaut untung ada benarnya?..renungkanlah.

Apakah kesimpulan…antara Niat dan Perlakuan…adakah ianya terletak pada hak individu untuk menilai dan melaksanakan atau ianya harus mengikut perundangan hukum Halal dan Haram…Renungkanlah.

Yang baik datangnya dari Allah SWT dan yang salah dan yang buruk adalah kelemahan diri Ohalf sendiri.

My Kelantan Trip

Ramainya yang pergi Kota Bahru, Kelantan cuti baru2 nie…Ohalf memang dah lama plan bercuti di KB. The last time Ohalf pergi was 15 years ago..lama betul tue…Ohalf juga dapat tahu yang abg KDL and kak Sheeri pun buat perjumpaan kat sana and brother Shukz.blogspot pun jengah kat KB jugak…interesting!!!

Anyhow, my trips was almost turn out to be a disaster…Has I was about to depart on the plane, decide to withdraw some cash at the waiting hall terminal…while transacting the machine stop! and my atm card was stuck in there!!!...I need my cash coz at KB most transaction are done in

Dusk @ Ridel Hotel River front cash…and I have to wait to the coming Tuesday

to get a replacement in KB hence it was CNY’s public holidays nationwide…unlucky me just to bear with the available cash in my wallets...Nevertheless..I have to improvise..Still got the best of my holidays…

well always “expect the unexpected”. The "mean machine"...huhuhuhu

Kelantan, to me is very appealing and has it's own unique culture as compared to others states in the east coast. Being one of the longest states rule by opposition Pas, it's appeal to me by the warm of its people (irrespective what others may think of the state) and I have to mentioned the delicious foods that Kelantan can offers.

Here are some unique of Kelantan, captured in my lense....

The colours of Attractions

Your morning breakfast of Nasi Dagang

Semestinya dirasai....Mmmm sedap!!!

The local craft

Dried Cuttle fish

The royal museum

The local pastime

The pak Aji main aji...huhuhu

The famous market...Siti Khadijah

Yang mana satu ehhh???

Jering rebus- a traditional delicacies

hahaha...siap lepas nie gie toilet

The Crunchy Steam Shells - just like eating peanuts! Nie pelik sikit siput rebus...makan mesti gigi kena kuat.

Satay serve with toast

Macam2 selera- Satay makan dgn roti bakar...

Making of Kueh Manja

Tang mana yang manja tue..tak tahulah

The kelantan Colek & Tomyam

There are lots more places I went...The night market at Wakaf Che Yeh, Rantau Panjang - Golok Thailand, Masjid Beijing, Tumpat where the Sleeping Buddha, Pantai Cinta Berahi and many more... I really enjoy myself there and rest assured...I will be back for more...

Kelantan, meninggalkan Ohalf ribu satu rahsia dan kenangan...Ohalf ingin dari hiruk pikuk kebinggitan kota dan rasa tenang di sini...keramahan dan senyum manis... masih lagi tersemat dihati...siapa tue??? biarlah rahsia.